I’m technically on Spring Break right now – my schedule has now been effectively commandeered by my offspring’s, (the little Napoleon) – but I’ve been thinking a lot lately about space, and how it affects a person’s mood, and a writer’s work. I’ve moved a lot in the recent past – um, five times in five years, along with new three spaces belonging to my S.O./Better Half – and in each place I’ve had to establish a comfortable and dedicated writing space. Something that will allow me to both be present and go away at the same time. Some places have been better than others, but you do what you can, right? I can work in coffee shops or bookstores if I have to, but traveling constantly between two cities tends to stave off the cabin fever, so home – and routine – is definitely where my heart is.

You can tell by my RSS feed, too – it’s equally divided between writing blogs and design blogs. I’m afraid I’ve been dreaming of a place to rest my keyboard for years. However, one of the unexpected benefits of re-establishing a sense of home outside of your twenties is discovering and recognizing what you like, and who you are, when not tied to all the things the defined you in a previous life. I am not the same person as I was in my twenties. I am not the same person who began the Signs of the Zodiac series.

So those who follow my twitter feed have seen my tweets on some of the specific pieces I’m gathering into my home space now – knoll table, ghost chairs – things that are far more than just places to set my coffee cup, but that are a part of me defining the place that will then define me for the next few years. I am making choices that need to accommodate a blended family, and that will also affect my working mind – one that’s putting to bed one beloved series (aptly, I think), creating a new trilogy, and already entertaining two stand-alones.

Now I realize the choices I make aren’t as vast as they’d be if I were working here:

versus here:

(How can these strong spaces not affect one’s mind?)

But I’ve also made a conscious decision in these past couple of years that everything in my life is to be there by choice – nothing by accident, nothing and no one uninvited. It’s how I keep mental (and emotional) peace when traveling creates chaos in my life, and writing does the same with my mind.

So I was wondering if my friends and readers would share what you do to create a peaceful retreat in your lives? Where do you go when you want escape? What things do you gather around you that will allow you to emerge energized again? (And I’m talking small things too – I have an orchid on my table now that is specifically white, deliberately centered, giving me extreme contentment.)

Finally, where would you like to go if time, money, and responsibilities were no object at all? I’d love it if the southern California coast had a place with my name written all over it … but I suppose that’s for another time and place, and for a story that’s as yet unwritten.

  • Sassiecheryl

    I read when I need space. I have a 1300 sqft house and there’s five of us so I dont have a place to escape. What’s really funny is that I am going to college to be a teacher and actually going to my classes has become an escape for me. Where would I love to go if I didn’t have to worry about money and responsibilities? I would love to buy a cabin with lake front property and drag my family with me, the husband could take the kids and I would get some space. I’m a big water and nature person, it relaxes me by simply being in the presence of such magnificant things.

    • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

      I do, too. Mental space is just as important (more?) than physical space in refilling your emotional well.
      And the water seems to be a common thread here. I wonder what it is about water that soothes the human psyche?

      • Sassiecheryl

        I think that my subconscious see’s it as a cleansing. Also looking out into the large ocean and realizing that there is much bigger things out there, which makes me realize there are much bigger problems

        out there too.

        • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

          One of God’s reality checks. :-)

  • Mandi

    Our house is tight on space. We try to keep things organized so that clutter is at a minimum. Unfortunately the cats constantly shed and the dog leaves his toys wherever. (not to mention the two little people running around) The master bedroom and bathroom are pretty much the retreat. I have a desk in our room just for myself and the only things on it are what I choose to be on it. My computer, my cameras, books and Kindle all live here so that I can read, blog, write or edit as I choose. I have an enormous bathroom and it’s definitely a retreat. I love to take long showers and hide away in the morning.
    That said, if money and time were no object, I’d choose to either travel to Fiji and hide in a cabin over water for an undisclosed amount of time or travel the UK and Ireland, hiking and staying in Mom and Pop B&Bs as much as possible while seeing the sights I haven’t yet seen and basking in the glow of amazing history.

    • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

      The shower! I could live there …
      And I forgot about Ireland. (Probably because I’ve not been yet.) Def. on the bucket list.
      For now … I’ll read my way there.

  • Pamela Patchet

    Well, my house is a giant clutterfest because I live with a large, slovenly family, so after years of nagging with zero return and a lot of wasted energy, I now turn my back on most of it. However, I make sure to keep my desk in my private office clear of junk. I pushed the desk directly in front of a large window facing trees so I can look out and let my mind wander when I need to, or close the blinds and concentrate on the task at hand. On dark days, I use a special light therapy lamp which gives off amazing light, and actually gives me more energy to work late at night. I also keep a big bowl of old marbles close by to play with, and in case I lose mine…

    I have a cottage by a lake and a small cabin next door where I can go and find complete solitude and quiet. But for some reason, I simply can’t work there. I do much better with people around and the noise of the house swirling about me as long as I have a quiet room where I can shut myself away and work undisturbed. However, if YOU would like to use the cabin as a writing retreat, give me a shout.

    • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

      SHOUT!!!
      (Or should I say ‘Shoo-ot!’ ;-)

      • Pamela Patchet

        Well, come on then, girl. And bring the Bit. Does she like bears?

        • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

          We sometimes call J a bear. Does that count?

  • Raven

    My placeis also tight on space. I retreat into a book. My mind is full of the best places.
    I can’t wait to dive into your as yet unwrittens.

    • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

      Ah, well there you go. Writing is as much a retreat as anything. And, yanno, cheaper on everything but time.

  • LeAnne

    V, as odd to you as this will sound, I go to my kitchen and let my creative juices go wild to “escape”. I am happiest when I am tackling a tough recipe, without help.

    • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

      LeAnne … you’re right. It sounds odd. For *me.*
      For you? Perfect! ;-)

  • http://profiles.google.com/sarawalkerhowe Sara WH

    Your post is timely for me. I have an office of my own, but I have to wear ear defenders over top of ear buds pumping music to block the noise from the playroom next door. Music doesn’t work for me. I need quiet to write. I need to hear myself think without being influenced by lyrics. I’ve been toying with the idea of escaping to coffee shops and bookstores or carving out space in another part of the house. I preferred the days of writing in the dining room looking out over the birds in the front yard and the sparkling lake beyond. Those days may return. For now I’m doing what I have to do. (Like getting up at 5am.)

    I have a few objects for inspiration, but lately, I’ve found more peace and serenity in being clutter-free. I’d love to go minimalist someday.

    I love your table & chairs. You’re right about not being the same person as five years ago (was it only five years ago?). I feel the same way. It’s kind of exciting to be sitting on the edge of something new. Can’t wait to see what you’re cooking up.

    • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

      Sara, I’ve done all of that – and still do – at one time or another. I never did get out of the habit of getting up early. (I worked so hard for it, it would feel near sacrilegious to stop now.) White noise in earbuds at home is the best. Coffee shops occupy my conscious mind, and can actually augment my writing nicely, but there’s nothing like time and space to roam.
      Anyway, I can’t wait to see what *you’re* cooking up, too.
      Best of luck with it!

      • http://profiles.google.com/sarawalkerhowe Sara WH

        Hmm. White noise. I will have to see what I can find.

        I almost went to college for interior design, btw. I still love to look at floor plans and such. Can you recommend any good design blogs I can add to my feeder?

  • Anonymous

    Finally, where would you like to go if time, money, and responsibilities were no object at all? –> No question, the Cayman Islands. Man that place rocks. The beauty, the water, the heat….
    I’ve been there twice and would LOVE to go back.

    At home…my space is my patio (until the desert gets too hot to be outside). I love sitting out there, especially when the citrus scent is hanging in the air from our orange and lemon trees!

    • http://www.vickipettersson.com Vicki Pettersson

      Mmm, I love the wide, open expanse of the desert. I try to get out early in the mornings when it’s hot just so I can, I don’t know, *commune.* I love it.

      As for the Caymans – I’ve never been. You really like it better than other islands?

      • Anonymous

        I’ve only been to a few others, but yes, Cayman was my favorite. Mostly because of the beautiful snorkling! :)